Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Thoughts from a Single Man and Me of Course-Part 2

If you read Monday’s blog then it was definitely woe is me… all in my feelings.

If I’m being honest (which it seems I can't stop being honest) I do want to be married but being a mother is just as important to me.

And since I’m not getting any younger I asked my single friend what I thought is one of the most important things I should know as I navigate dating in my late 30’s.

How soon should she wait to tell you that she is looking for a husband and she is ready to have kids?

Most men would be run off if it came up right away. I personally don't have an issue with it. All because you express that you want it doesn't mean it's going to happen or you're expecting it to happen between us. Makes for conversation, as someone in my 30's I expect the talk.  If I was early to mid-20's, I would suggest waiting a couple of months before bringing that topic up. Find out what that man really is looking for in you. 

Me: So, let me see if I got this right…if I stick with someone my age I can bring it up but if I decide to get me a young stud I should wait. Either way I probably shouldn’t say it on the first date or tell him I have a blog LOL!

Since, I love buying date clothes I asked how important is my attire on a first date.

Are their expectations of her outfit?

Not really. Just all depends on what we're doing. You don't need a prom dress on for a first date but you also don't need to be dressed as if we're about to hit the club. Keep it simple but stylish. 

Me: I think all of my date clothes are simple but stylish…I’m winning!

Does the outfit give you an indication of her personality?

 It can. If you're wearing Baby Phat or House of Dereon, I can only assume that you haven't been exposed to a lot *shrugs*.  If I tell you're we're going to the park or doing something outside, dress for the occasion. 

Me: No Baby Phat or House of Dereon in my closet so I’m good.  But I have owned both LOL!

I am finding out that I may have this dating thing down…well when I get a date. Cue violin music!  

I hope you all are finding this interesting…I know I am.

There is still more to come. I asked a lot of questions. So, stay with me!


Almost 40


  1. I am loving your blog. Keep it up you're not alone. I too have the same feelings.

    1. Thank you so very much Lori...these comments mean everything.